There is no doubt that travelling together will change your relationship. You will both be seeing and doing incredible things together. But you will also find yourself being pushed to your limits, meeting new people and away from the comforts of home. Here are 9 ways we think travelling changes couples – hopefully for the best!
You quickly find out who your partner really is
We have lived together for 9 years and have been married for 5 of those but nothing brings couples closer together than travelling. You are pretty much with each other 24 hours a day, every day while you are away. There’s nowhere to hide when you are travelling together. You will soon find out who your partner ‘really’ is.
If you want to find out the true character of your partner, try rocking up to a hostel that has lost your booking and is now booked out after your taxi driver just tried to charge you double and managed to find time to stop at 3 shitty antique stores along the way. Their true colours will quickly surface.
You can almost read each other’s minds
Travelling has put us in situations that are new and sometimes stressful. But once you find your routine and get to know each other’s travel habits it does not take long to predict each other’s behaviour. It won’t take long before a simple facial expression or knowing look will be able to speak a thousand words.
When some bell end at your hostel launches into yet another story about how they travelled across South America for 15 months only spending $7 a day, a quick glance across the room to your partner will speak volumes. The same goes for when some flog grabs the guitar to serenade everyone with shitty version of Wonderwall.
You perfect the art of comfortable silence
How good is it when you can just sit with someone and not talk? Clue: it’s the best!
Whether on a disgusting 14-hour bus to the middle of nowhere or sitting in an empty hotel room, couples will eventually perfect the art of comfortable silence. You may just simply have nothing that needs to be said or you may just need a bit of “me time” away from people all together.
You might not have realised it before you left but the ability to sit/stand/lay down together and not say a single word may be the best time you spend together all trip. Give it a go!
You talk about poo a lot more
I am really hoping that this is not just us! The longer we have been on the road the more comfortable we are about discussing bodily functions. Spending so much time together breaks down a lot of barriers between couples, especially when it comes to talking about poo.
Sitting in a tiny room in a guesthouse while your partner approaches their third hour on the toilet after a dodgy latte from a café in downtown Udaipur will actually bring you closer, although you might not realise it at the time.
You get very inventive about when and where to have sex
Once again, I really hope that this is not just us. Being on the road long term will see you staying in a wide range of accommodation, from 12-bed dorms to splashing out on a semi-decent hotel. Along the way you will want some “adult time” with your partner. Your brain starts getting very inventive as to when and where is an appropriate time for some action. This of course can be quite the adventure but more often than not it’s just a pain in the ass.
You haven’t really travelled as a couple until you have felt that crushing sensation of someone strolling in to your dorm room at 11pm just as you thought you would have the room to yourself for the night – it’s soul destroying.
You unite with/against other couples
Unlike being at home, on the road you are constantly meeting new people. Pretty much every day you will meet someone completely unlike anyone you have met before. Some of them you will get along with straight away and others… not so much.
You will quickly identify those that you know you will get along with from those that you don’t. The in-depth chat after you meet someone who you both get along with is one of the best parts of travelling.
You swap in and out of roles
Whether it be verbally or intuitively, you will quickly assign yourselves roles while you are travelling. Navigator, translator, bargainer, money handler, restaurant finder, the roles go on and on. Eventually you will get to the point where it will probably swap day by day depending on your moods.
When one of you have inevitably cracked the shits about something or you just can be bothered, it’s time for the other partner to step in and pick up the slack. Sometimes this can happen mid-process. For example, one of you may just throw the towel in when bartering with a particularly stubborn taxi driver, so enter the second partner to clean up the mess!
You create a wide range of in-jokes
Depending on where you are travelling it’s more than likely that you will spend A LOT of time just talking to each other. This inevitably leads to the creation of in-jokes that no one else on earth understands or even finds remotely humorous.
These can arise from film, music, literature or simply something you saw earlier in the day. You will both be in hysterics and most people will be looking at you like you are complete lunatics, but it doesn’t matter – you’re both funny as hell.
It will make or break your relationship
Travelling together will show you your partner’s true colours, and in some cases this may not be such a good thing. For others, however, it’s the best thing that can happen to your relationship. Many people would agree that travelling together will test a relationship more than living together. You will experience the full range of emotions and your normal at home routine will be out the door.
Over the years we have seen some spectacular relationship break downs on the road. If partner A has headed to Europe to party every night and sleep in but partner B would rather study the finer points of neo-classical French architecture, chances are that it will fall apart at some point. There are of course exceptions to this rule!
Has travel changed your relationship? Tell us about it below!