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How Travelling Changes Couples (Hopefully For The Better!)

How Travelling Changes Couples (Hopefully For The Better!)

There is no doubt that travelling together will change your relationship. You will both be seeing and doing incredible things together. But you will also find yourself being pushed to your limits, meeting new people and away from the comforts of home. Here are 9 ways we think travelling changes couples – hopefully for the best!

You quickly find out who your partner really is

We have lived together for 9 years and have been married for 5 of those but nothing brings couples closer together than travelling. You are pretty much with each other 24 hours a day, every day while you are away. There’s nowhere to hide when you are travelling together. You will soon find out who your partner ‘really’ is.

If you want to find out the true character of your partner, try rocking up to a hostel that has lost your booking and is now booked out after your taxi driver just tried to charge you double and managed to find time to stop at 3 shitty antique stores along the way. Their true colours will quickly surface.

Visit Tbilisi Georgia

You can almost read each other’s minds

Travelling has put us in situations that are new and sometimes stressful. But once you find your routine and get to know each other’s travel habits it does not take long to predict each other’s behaviour. It won’t take long before a simple facial expression or knowing look will be able to speak a thousand words.

When some bell end at your hostel launches into yet another story about how they travelled across South America for 15 months only spending $7 a day, a quick glance across the room to your partner will speak volumes. The same goes for when some flog grabs the guitar to serenade everyone with shitty version of Wonderwall.

You perfect the art of comfortable silence

How good is it when you can just sit with someone and not talk? Clue: it’s the best!

Whether on a disgusting 14-hour bus to the middle of nowhere or sitting in an empty hotel room, couples will eventually perfect the art of comfortable silence. You may just simply have nothing that needs to be said or you may just need a bit of “me time” away from people all together.

You might not have realised it before you left but the ability to sit/stand/lay down together and not say a single word may be the best time you spend together all trip. Give it a go!

You talk about poo a lot more

I am really hoping that this is not just us! The longer we have been on the road the more comfortable we are about discussing bodily functions. Spending so much time together breaks down a lot of barriers between couples, especially when it comes to talking about poo.

Sitting in a tiny room in a guesthouse while your partner approaches their third hour on the toilet after a dodgy latte from a café in downtown Udaipur will actually bring you closer, although you might not realise it at the time.

Spring Peja Kosovo

You get very inventive about when and where to have sex

Once again, I really hope that this is not just us. Being on the road long term will see you staying in a wide range of accommodation, from 12-bed dorms to splashing out on a semi-decent hotel. Along the way you will want some “adult time” with your partner. Your brain starts getting very inventive as to when and where is an appropriate time for some action. This of course can be quite the adventure but more often than not it’s just a pain in the ass.

You haven’t really travelled as a couple until you have felt that crushing sensation of someone strolling in to your dorm room at 11pm just as you thought you would have the room to yourself for the night – it’s soul destroying.

You unite with/against other couples

Unlike being at home, on the road you are constantly meeting new people. Pretty much every day you will meet someone completely unlike anyone you have met before. Some of them you will get along with straight away and others… not so much.

You will quickly identify those that you know you will get along with from those that you don’t. The in-depth chat after you meet someone who you both get along with is one of the best parts of travelling.

You swap in and out of roles

Whether it be verbally or intuitively, you will quickly assign yourselves roles while you are travelling. Navigator, translator, bargainer, money handler, restaurant finder, the roles go on and on. Eventually you will get to the point where it will probably swap day by day depending on your moods.

When one of you have inevitably cracked the shits about something or you just can be bothered, it’s time for the other partner to step in and pick up the slack. Sometimes this can happen mid-process. For example, one of you may just throw the towel in when bartering with a particularly stubborn taxi driver, so enter the second partner to clean up the mess!

Bay of Kotor Montenegro

You create a wide range of in-jokes

Depending on where you are travelling it’s more than likely that you will spend A LOT of time just talking to each other. This inevitably leads to the creation of in-jokes that no one else on earth understands or even finds remotely humorous.

These can arise from film, music, literature or simply something you saw earlier in the day. You will both be in hysterics and most people will be looking at you like you are complete lunatics, but it doesn’t matter – you’re both funny as hell.

It will make or break your relationship

Travelling together will show you your partner’s true colours, and in some cases this may not be such a good thing. For others, however, it’s the best thing that can happen to your relationship. Many people would agree that travelling together will test a relationship more than living together. You will experience the full range of emotions and your normal at home routine will be out the door.

Over the years we have seen some spectacular relationship break downs on the road. If partner A has headed to Europe to party every night and sleep in but partner B would rather study the finer points of neo-classical French architecture, chances are that it will fall apart at some point. There are of course exceptions to this rule!

Has travel changed your relationship? Tell us about it below!

7 Tips For Choosing Your Travel Partner

7 Tips For Choosing Your Travel Partner

We have met plenty of people over the years who have shared horror stories about falling out with friends or partners while travelling. Choosing the right travel partner is important, as your ability to wear the ups and downs of travel together will have a huge impact on your trip. Here are a few things to keep in mind when making your decision.

1. Length of your trip together

If you are planning a long trip (say 12 months), check your travel partner is on board with this. Perhaps they only want to join you for part of the way, or they would prefer a shorter trip.

If you haven’t travelled together before, a short ‘tester’ trip to check your travel compatibility is a good idea. If you can’t hack 5 days on a beach in Bali together, you probably won’t survive 6 months in Central Asia.

2. Your budgets

Having a similar budget to your travel partner will make life a lot easier when choosing activities and accommodation. Have a chat about your budget with your travel partner before you leave. If there is a big difference between budgets, have a frank discussion about what happens if one wants to stay somewhere or do something that the other can’t afford.

3. Having similar interests

Make sure you are interested in doing and seeing similar things. This may sound basic, but it’s can be a mistake to assume that everyone else is interested in the same stuff as you! Do you prefer cities or nature? Art galleries or hiking? History museums or watching sport? There is so much to see and usually not enough time to see it all, so it helps if you have the same priorities.

4. Personality clashes

How do you both react under stress? What is your ‘arguing style’? Are you a little obsessive compulsive, or extremely laid back? Travelling someone with complimentary yet compatible personality traits is important. You are almost certainly going to have disagreements and stressful times on the road, so think about how you will both handle these situations.

5. Hostel vs hotel

Some people have a real aversion to dorm rooms, while others love the social side of hostels. Check you are both on the same page when it comes to the type of accommodation you will be staying in.

6. To party or not to party?

The age old question. If you prefer to be in bed tucked up with a book at 9pm, it probably best to avoid travelling with your mate who likes to go on drunken benders until 3am.

7. Have an escape plan

So what happens if you chose the wrong travel buddy, and it all goes tits up? It’s worth having an ‘escape plan’, so you can part ways or take a break from travelling with each other without ruining your friendship or relationship.

Of course, if you travel alone you don’t have to worry about any of this! Travelling alone isn’t for everyone, but we’ve met plenty of people who love the freedom and flexibility of solo travel.